When it comes to getting married, couples often feel pressured to follow traditional wedding expectations. Luckily, there is a growing trend towards eloping and couples doing exactly what they want to celebrate their love. Unfortunately, there are still several myths surrounding elopements that can discourage couples from pursing this option. When it comes to debunking common myths about eloping, you’ve come to the right place! I’m a full-time elopement and intimate wedding photographer (based in Montana). But I’m also a bride, planning my own elopement. Let’s tackle this together!
Truth: Eloping is not about running away! It’s about choosing to celebrate your love in a way that feels authentic to you and your love story. While I’m sure some couples still ‘run away’ to get married, it goes a lot deeper than that nowadays. Whether you want to avoid family drama, save money, or simply prefer a private ceremony, eloping can be a thoughtful and intentional choice! Eloping doesn’t mean you’re hiding your love or avoiding commitment; it means you’re prioritizing what’s important to you as a couple. ‘Nuff said.
Truth: While eloping can certainly be more affordable than a traditional wedding, it’s not always the cheapest option. Depending on the location your choose and the vendors you select, the costs can add up quickly. But can I tell you the beauty of eloping? You can customize your day to fit your budget. You can choose to spend more on a stunning location, or opt for a luxurious honeymoon. The point is, you get to decide where to allocate your resources.
Truth: Eloping can be just as special (if not more so) than a traditional wedding. By choosing to elope, you’re choosing to create a more intimate, meaningful experience that is centered around your love for one another. Don’t get me wrong, traditional weddings also have intimacy and meaningful experiences. But there’s also a lot of ‘fluff’ most of the time. By eloping, you’re able to focus on the details that matter most to you as a couple. Maybe exchanging private vows is something you two would feel more comfortable with. Or perhaps you share a mutual love for a frequent vacation spot. Elopements can be just as romantic, emotional, and memorable as a traditional wedding.
Truth: I might say this until I’m blue in the face, but your elopement can be whatever you want it to be. You can absolutely still enjoy all of the ‘traditional wedding traditions’ even if you’re eloping! You can still have a wedding shower, exchange rings, wear a wedding dress, hire your dream vendors, and have a reception. And guess what?! You can even include your friends and family in your elopement.
Truth: Let it be known that eloping is not selfish, it’s your personal choice. Your wedding day is about you and your partner – nobody else. The decision to celebrate your love in a way that feels true to your values and priorities comes down to you and your partner. Your friends and family may think that you don’t want them to be involved because you don’t love them. We both know that that couldn’t be further from the truth!
Truth: Spoiler alert! An elopement can include as many people (or as few people) as you want! While some couples certainly choose to elope just as a couple, others choose to invite a small group of family and friends.
Truth: While elopements can be less complicated than traditional weddings, they still require planning and coordination. Elopement planning includes deciding on a location, obtaining necessary permits, hiring vendors, finding lodging, etc. Luckily, many elopement planners specialize in helping couples plan their elopements to lessen the stress! Even some elopement photographers (*ahem* like me) help with the planning process, too.
Truth: Just because you elope doesn’t mean you have to miss out on celebrating your marriage with your loved ones. You can still plan a reception or gathering after your elopement to include everyone that wasn’t able to be present. This is a beautiful way to share your special day while still maintaining the intimacy of your elopement.